It’s no secret that America has a large feminists movement, and we even had a march dedicated to it recently. Many women make it their life’s purpose to promote equality.
I know men and women alike also hate the movement’s guts, and I don’t blame them. It has grown to ridiculous proportions.
Not that the original idea is something I dislike. I don’t even dislike the mantra “HEre me roar.” Nothing wrong with roaring.
What concerns me is how deeply selfish feminism has become.
Stay with me girls, I’m going to explain.
I’ve never really dealt with sexism from men, though I probably will at some point, because it is out there, but it’s not half so common as it’s cracked up to be. I have already encountered sexism from women.
At the very least, if we must be sexist, I wish it was to some purpose. This marching and telling the world what it would be like if women weren’t at the work place is at best flaunting a long past victory; at worst, it’s lunacy.
Because if anyone should not be complaining about that, it’s American women.
What we should be complaining about is how those girls in countries like India, Cambodia, and Greece, are tricked into being kidnapped and sex trafficked. Millions, every year.
We should be complaining about how women are kept ignorant and helpless in countries where the Taliban is in power.
WE should be complaining that women in African countries are starving and dying of water contamination and also watching their children do the same, and many of those women and girls are forced into sex trade too, as the only way to avoid starvation.
We should be complaining about the Jewish and Christian women who are slain along with their families or have to watch their families die, because of their faith.
We should not be marching the streets waving our angry signs, because we are allowed only to show up to work and get paid for it and take it home to our families, and don’t have to worry about being stopped on the street and asked why we are out without a man.
We should not be giving men the finger for handing over our rights decades ago instead of shooting us or beating us for raising our voices.
What is wrong with us?
Don’t misunderstand me. Any prejudice is wrong, even if it is smaller in our country, but I snot the point of having a voice and having a power so we can speak up for those who are still silenced? and protect those who are still defenseless?
I repeat, feminism is selfish. At least what it has morphed into.
And it is not fair when we tell our daughters they can be anything, but we tell our sons to get out of their way.
We teach boys to not think girls are lesser, but we don’t teach girls to show boys the proper respect.
It goes both ways. There’s a saying “If you would be loved, be lovely.” And it might just as well be “If you would be respected, be respectable and respectful.”
But more importantly, it is selfish to rant about our very few misfortunes, and say nothing about what is going on around the world. It affects us too, immigrants are bringing it into our country, and I know people from other countries than America read this blog, and I mean them too. It is coming into every country.
I have heard it remarked on that schools are now teaching kids to be citizens of the world, whether or not that is a good thing, I can’t say; but if they are citizens of the world they ought to be taught to view the suffering in the world as part of their lives too. Something they should allieviate if they can. I get letters every month telling me about suffering I could help stop if I had money, which I don’t currently, but while I did, I gave some. It’s not a big deal. Its’ what we all should do. It’s not like it has to be a lot, most places are thankful to get anything, even five bucks.
I don’t have any organizations of my own to beg for, so you know this is simply what I think is right.
If you would support women, then support the ones who need it most. I don’t think it’s really so complicated.
But it doesn’t have to start with money. If you want to promote women’s rights, start by treating the women around you right. If girls tear each other down, or compete with each other in unhealthy ways, that is as anti feminine as anything a man could do.
One more thing, when girls are angry, there is usually a deeper issue. I’ve had rape used as an argument against doing right by men, more than once. I can’t pretend to understand the effects of such assaults, but I do know that whatever someone else does to you, it doesn’t change what you need to do yourself.
Being angry against everyone will not help, and ignoring the fact that things like that happen daily to girls around the world is still selfish, because no one should want others to suffer a horror they’ve been through themselves. But I am not unsympathetic, and if I could offer personal advice, I would, but I suggest seeking more professional help if that is you case.
But hopefully it is not; and the rest of us have no excuse at all.
Whew! This is some heavy stuff. I just hope I’ve done justice to it.
What I really want to do is to wncourage girls and women to be more than that. To do greater things than they’ve seen demonstrated, and to think of other people besides themselves. i want to encourge men to do the same.Thsiis jsut a humn thing,not a gender thing, and we need to stop making it into that. That, I suppose, was my main point.
Until next time–Natasha.
“If there ever comes a time when the women of the world come together purely and simply for the benefit of mankind, it will be a force such as the world has never known.”–Matthew Arnold. (Emphathis mine.)